Navigating Infidelity
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Navigating Infidelity

For individuals in a committed partnership, infidelity can have a cataclysmic impact on their relationship. While infidelity may be an automatic death knell in some relationships, others recover and even grow stronger in the aftermath of an isolated incident of cheating or an affair.

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Online Dating and its Discontents
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Online Dating and its Discontents

Although many people have successfully met their partners online, the road to finding a good match can be arduous and time-consuming.

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Guilt, Shame, and the Working Mom
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Guilt, Shame, and the Working Mom

Many new mothers worry about how their absence during the work day will impact their infant developmentally, psychologically or interpersonally.

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Am I Dating a Narcissist?
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Am I Dating a Narcissist?

Being in a relationship with someone who exhibits narcissistic traits can be painful, exhausting, and invalidating. You may feel lonely. You may worry that there’s something wrong with you for attracting and being with somebody so self-involved.

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The Insidious Interplay of Loss and Depression
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The Insidious Interplay of Loss and Depression

In his seminal work “Mourning and Melancholia” Sigmund Freud proposed that depression (then referred to as melancholia) is caused by an unconscious loss. While a loss that causes depression may be more overt such as the loss of a person or a relationship, it can also be more subtle such as the loss of an ideal or hope for the future.

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Ambition and Anxiety
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Ambition and Anxiety

Ambition can be very invigorating but not if one’s anxiety constantly gets in the way. This might resonate for you if you find yourself suffering from mental exhaustion and a nagging frustration that your goals are repeatedly thwarted by self doubt, bouts of anxiety or panic attacks.

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Improve your relationships by learning about secure Attachment Styles
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Improve your relationships by learning about secure Attachment Styles

You might notice that some people around you have an easier time asking their friends for favors, setting boundaries with coworkers, and letting their romantic partners know when they are hurt or upset. In other words, you might notice that some can request for their needs to be met while others find this to be an incredibly difficult task. In order to ask for our needs to be met, internally we need to have a solid sense of safety and security.

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Fifty Shrinks: Reflections of a European psychologist in New York
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Fifty Shrinks: Reflections of a European psychologist in New York

I stand at the threshold of my father's study and watch him intently as he is quietly absorbed in writing in his little red notebook. His concentrated facial expression has me intrigued in a whimsical way. Feeling my gaze on him, he looked up, smiled and said, "I'm writing down my dream from last night. You can do that too when you're bigger."

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